EFT HELPS COPE WITH TRAGEDY…
EFT Insights Newsletter 1 20 11 (Dedicated to peace in this world)
This touching and inspiring article submitted by Dr.
Suzanne Lerner details how she helped a client overcome her distress caused by
the gun shooting in Arizona and her anger at the politicians and commentators
who fuel the anger in our society. Her client found guidance which if we all
took on board would help to bring peace and healing to our wonderful world. In
Suzanne's own words, "May We All
Live In Peace… May We All Learn to Live with Hope, Collaboration, Inspiration
& Celebration!"
By Dr. Suzanne Lerner
Today I worked with a dear client who was in a lot of emotional
pain. She was close to tears, extremely distressed at the gun
shooting in Arizona that had just left several people dead. This
happened on Saturday, and she had been virtually glued to her TV set, following
the News updates for hours at a time.
Then Sunday, her two dogs, who had been fighting a bit, suddenly escalated
in a shocking manner. Where before they had been barking and
misbehaving, on Sunday they viciously attacked each other, and as Sarah
described, “there was blood on the furniture, blood on the
floor.” The wounds were so bad that she had to take one dog to the
Emergency room at 9PM Sunday night.
The shoot out in Arizona had particularly touched her, because it happened
literally 10 minutes from where her family lives, and in front of a store where
her mother had just recently been shopping.
Sarah spoke of a variety of emotions swirling inside of her,
fear, guilt, anger and a sense of grieving. Because she was feeling
quite emotionally distressed, I asked her where she was feeling this grieving,
and she replied, “in my heart, in my upper chest.” I had her tap on
her heart (an added tapping point I often use.) I then asked her what her
heart was most needing right now, and she said “a golden cocoon.” I
asked if the cocoon would weave on its own, or if it needed someone like angels
or someone else to help weave it. She called upon an
angel. The moment we started weaving the cocoon, her dogs started
barking loudly and I asked if she’d like to offer the dogs a golden cocoon
around them and their hearts as well. She happily agreed. (The
dogs immediately stopped barking.) We allowed the cocoon to weave gently and
softly, acknowledging that we would be addressing all her
feelings, but first allowing her to get a few moments of rest and peace.
I then asked Sarah, "If your heart could talk, without worrying about
what anyone else thought, what might it say?" I gave a few
examples: “This isn’t fair!” “I hate this!” or something else. “What
would it say…” And she replied poignantly: “Why haven’t things
gotten better?”
I asked her if there was a younger part of herself, that felt that
way. She said yes, there was a 4 or 5 year old part of
herself. I then invited her to enter the Matrix, and describe this
younger part. She asked her younger self if she could tap on her and
her younger self agreed. Then I had her imagine tapping on her younger self, as
she actually tapped on herself, as taught in Matrix Reimprinting.
As she tapped, we addressed her fear, guilt, anger, outrage, and also the
phrase: “Why haven’t things gotten better?” Her strongest feeling
was the outrage. I asked her where in her body she felt this
outrage, and she described a round black spiky sensation in her
stomach. She was feeling particularly outraged at the politicians
and radio commentators who encourage hatred. We tapped on this and
then she noted that she felt “sick to her stomach.”
"What if you were to vomit this feeling onto the politicians and the
commentators?" She laughed and said, “Yeah!” She
tapped around as she made vomiting sounds, “Blech!” “Blech!” and such phrases
as “I don’t want your hatred in my stomach any more” “I’m giving
this back to you, it doesn’t belong to me.” The pain in her stomach
was greatly reduced. I asked her if she needed anything else for her
stomach to feel completely at ease. Sarah decided she wanted to coat
her stomach with some enzymes, which would protect her stomach from hatred, and
transmute the hatred to something harmless. I then asked if this
younger part would like anything else, some company, someone to hold her, she
could have anything! “I’d like my mom to hold me.” And so
we had her imagine that in detail.
I teach my clients to recognize and work with all the different parts inside
of them. Sarah recognized that there was another part that was
concerned, and so we moved on to address that part's concerns. “What
I’m aware of, is that there is a part of me that feels I need to take some
action, and it fears that anger is the only motivator. It’s afraid
that without the anger, I’ll be passive and won’t take any action.”
I noted that anger is a strong, but relatively low grade
“fuel.” Since we had cleared her compulsive eating issues in
previous sessions, I made an analogy. “Anger is similar to eating
junk food. It feels like the junk food will powerfully satisfy, but
over time you realize that healthy food is a better fuel, even if it may take a
little more preparation and effort.”
I explained that I could very much understand how this part was concerned,
and the outrage that it felt. “Imagine what Dr. Martin Luther King
must have felt, when attack dogs and fire hoses were set on his peaceful
demonstrators.” I asked her if she’d like to consult with her Higher
Self for guidance on this issue, and she agreed.
I then led her on a brief visualization to a Sanctuary,
where she could consult with her Higher Self about the issue of how to make
change in the World, if you are not fueled by anger. What came to
her was an actual Council of Guides, including people who had been killed,
while acting in service. It included Bobby & John F. Kennedy, Martin
Luther King Jr., and also the little girl who had been shot on Saturday, who had poignantly touched Sarah; having been
born on 9/11 into violence and having left the world in similar
chaos. “They’re all in a different place now” Sarah shared somewhat
dreamily.
The Council then gave her guidance including:
BE MINDFUL OF THE WORDS YOU USE
ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND A QUEST FOR PEACE AS YOU CHOOSE YOUR WORDS & THOUGHTS
BE ON A “DIET” FROM ALL THE NEWS YOU ARE VIEWING, WHICH SIMPLY
FUELS THE FIRE
CONTINUE DOING YOUR VOLUNTEER WORK WITH DISTURBED
ADOLESCENTS,
WHETHER YOU FEEL IT HELPS OR NOT
LOOK FOR PEOPLE YOU CAN INVOLVE YOURSELF WITH TO HELP WORK FOR
PEACE
THIS IS WHAT WILL MAKE CHANGES RATHER THAN MAKING MORE RULES OR LAWS
We then went back to address her feelings toward the “Hate” Politicians and
commentators. I asked Sarah if she had any idea why they would act that
way. I had her tap around the points, as she answered. “I
suppose they think it’s a form of entertainment… they probably want to provide
for their families… it seems they may believe the lies… they may have felt
victimized from past traumas… they’re scared… they have fears that I can’t
understand.”
“It’s hard sometimes to understand others’ fears,” I responded, “In the same
way that some people may find it hard to understand your fears
sometimes.” “I wonder if it might be possible,” I mused, “to be
outraged by their actions, but still send loving and healing to their
Souls?” “Absolutely!” she replied. “Would you maybe like
to send some surrogate healing to all those around the World, who express
hatred in their words and actions?” Sarah was in a very different
space at this point, and happily agreed.
Some of the set-up phrases we used included:
“Even though I hate your actions, I choose to send love and healing to
your Soul.”
“Even though I feel outrage at your hatred and destruction, I choose to
send healing to the wounded parts inside of you.”
“Even though I can’t comprehend how you could do such a thing, I choose
to send peace and compassion to your Soul.”
We then revisited her 4 or 5 year old self, to see if she needed anything
else. She was fine, having been read a story by her mom, and was
resting peacefully. We then checked on the part of herself that had
projectile vomited on the hate politicians and radio
commentators. She cleaned up the vomit, and disposed of it a safe
manner, cleaning it off the people as well.
Because we had been several places, with several parts, I asked Sarah to
tune in and see if there was a symbol, which might represent a combination of
what her different parts had learned, so that we could inform every cell of her
body, and send that image out into the Matrix.
“I see a lit candle.” Sarah shared. “Is it in a
container or free floating?” I asked. “It’s a Light of Hope, being
held at the bottom by many hands. People are holding it, and then it
is being passed to the next and the next and the next…” “Beautiful!”
I replied. “And what colors would you like to surround this picture
with?” “Pink & Green.” (interestingly enough, colors
often associated with the heart chakra.)
I had Sarah take this image into the top of her head, vibrationally touching
and informing every cell in her body. She then focused &
intensified this image in her heart, and then radiated this “Candle Light of
Hope” out in every direction, until it bathed herself, the planet and beyond.
I then checked back with the black round spiky feeling in her stomach and
her general SUDS Level, which had been what she described as: “fluctuating
rapidly between 8 and 12” at the beginning of the session. The black
spiky feeling was completely gone. She added, “I feel oddly
relaxed. My stomach is fine… I feel hopeful, with a fair degree of
compassion and understanding. Actually, I’m feeling a deep love
& appreciation. I’m more motivated to contribute to efforts for
Peace, and I can see how EFT is going to play a major part in
that. Thank you so, very, very much!”
NOTE: This session involved an advanced variation of classic
Emotional Freedom and Matrix Reimprinting Techniques, combined with
visualization and other healing modalities. I honor Gary Craig, Karl
Dawson, Sasha Allenby & all the other teachers who have touched and
inspired my work. May We All Live In Peace…May We All Learn to Live
with Hope, Collaboration, Inspiration & Celebration!
Dr. Suzanne Improvisation Lerner
Psychologist, Hypnotherapist & Advanced EFT Practitioner
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